Accident Proned or Bad Parenting?
I can’t help but to have mommy guilt when my little man gets hurt, especially since his latest injury. I mean, gah, he just had another coco on his head from another accident the other day.
So this latest one….we have a couple of 4-wheelers here. One with guards, one without. My boys had just ridden so they were both hot. Little man went outside immediately after his nap because he saw his brothers and dad out there. Within a few seconds, he was climbing the 4-wheeler with no guards, while bare foot, burning his foot.
As fast as I could, I put his foot under cool water. Not cold, because I heard it’s not good to numb the burned area. After about 20 minutes of “playing” in the cool water, we applied solar caine on it. My husband had to run to town to get some aloe vera and stuff. It helped a bunch. So now we have this HUGE bubble blister and was told by the doctor AND LOTS of twitter friends NOT to pop the blister because it can cause infection. Unfortunately little man can’t walk because of how big it is but he’s being as good as a fxin’ to be 2yr old can.
Now I feel so bad. First his head because he was bouncing on the bed, and now this because A) I wasn’t out there to watch him. I mean, he climbs on the 4-wheeler all the time to play but it was hot this time and I should have been watching. and B) He should have had shoes on. I’ve been putting shoes on him lately because of how much he runs to the barn, etc. I was being lazy.
Obviously kids are going to have accidents but geez, –2 big ones in a couple of weeks just makes me feel like a terrible parent.
What do you think?
If your kids aren’t getting bumps and bruises, there would be something wrong with him. Oh man, I do feel bad for him now that I’ve seen the pic. Poor baby.
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Poor little guy! That looks like it really hurts!
Don’t feel bad though, accidents happen, especially around that age. My oldest still has a scar on his forehead from sticking his head on an exposed lightbulb at a little over 2. All of them have had various bumps, scrapes, burns and bruises over the years. Don’t beat yourself up over it, things just happen sometimes!
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Aww man poor thing, but it happens to the best of us, guilt comes with the job of being a mommy. The shoulda, coulda, woulda’s will never make it better.
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Ouch ! Oh man that must have hurt when he stepped on it! I can just imagine how it feels now and how hard it must be for you to make sure he isn’t breaking it! I know you feel bad,all mommies do when things happen to their kids,but don’t blame yourself stuff just happens when you have kids and if he had shoes on then maybe he would have fallen and got it on the arm or belly or some place else. I know it looks awful but at least it is his foot and not some place else on that cute little guy ! I hope it heals up fast and try not to blame yourself .
The fact that you have guilt, and you respond to the injury as quickly as you can shows that you are a great parent. Children get hurt… I think the only way to absolutely prevent it would be to keep them in a bubble. I think even then, they’d probably figure out a way though. :)
It’s not your fault! Kids will be kids. You take care of him & yourself!
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that looks like it HURTS! omg, that blister is HUGE! jesus! lol… not your fault though.. accidents happen. and they happen to little ones. hopefully, he’ll NEVER do that again. :)
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Oh, poor thing!! But don’t beat yourself up over it, although I know most mommies can totally relate to how you feel! Accidents will happen, and the fact that you were right on it, helping him and trying to take some of his pain away just proves you’re a great mommy!
Aww, poor little man! He did a good job! Don’t beat yourself up over it, hun. Kids WILL be kids!
I’m guessing you don’t have eyes in the back of your head, also, that you do not have 8 or more arms…without those…accidents happen. Doesn’t make you a bad mom AT ALL. Poor little baby though, I know how you feel….Great blog. Bookmarking. Love. It.
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Oh that sweet little foot. That blister just looks awful, but those toes are scrumptious. I agree with everyone here, please don’t beat yourself up for a mistake in a moment. We forget how FAST they are. I hope it heal safely and painlessly for the little man.
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Ouch! Kids move quick and it only takes a second. Just tonight my little girl DID NOT want her diaper changed. She thumbed her little back and tailbone on the hard floor so hard in protest I thought she hurt herself. Luckily, I think not. Nonetheless, it takes a second and can not always be under your control. So yes, it hurts. Yes, it feels bad and so do you. Will he learn? Maybe? Were you watching closely, maybe not but was dad or brothers? We can’t do it all. It was an accident and he will be okay. Just give him TLC and follow DR. advice and you’ll be fine. You’re NOT a bad mom!
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Oooh! Poor baby! These things happen though, especially with boys and especially on farms! An old Greek remedy (that really works) is putting cold yogurt on a burn immediately after. It stops it from blistering and eases the pain. :)
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Awww, poor baby! As cliche as it sounds, boys really will be boys. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
And, yeah, definitely don’t pop it! The stuff in there is pretty much “liquid skin” and needs time to heal so the blister is protecting it while it does.
Hope he feels better and is running all over the place again soon!
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Not that my opinion counts for squat.
I feel for you.
I dont think that makes you a bad parent.
Its hard seeing your little ones hurt and its our inborn instinct to want to protect them from any and all.
When my 9 month old took his first faceplant while learning to walk, his bloody nose just broke my heart.
love,
consistency, rules to keep them safe and considerate,
joy in your eyes when he is looking to you for that connection.
laughing with them as much as possible.
THOSE are the things that make a good parent.
and a bump, a scrape, bloody nose, or skinned knee doesent take that away.
I am sure the attention, comfort and love hes getting from mommy while he recovers is valuable. and though the injury isnt a good thing, theres good come from it with the bonding and emotions you have shared with your son.
sorry if this is too long,
I just felt for you.
thanks and take care
Bry
(blissfulfun on twitter)
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Now why would you say that your opinion doesn’t count for squat! Geez, what kind of gal you think I am? I care…I’m not THAT mean;)
Very nice words you said….I do appreciate it!
My little guy is absolutely loving the attention no doubt and we have snuggled quite a bit since the injury…..very sweet…reminds me to do so more often;)
Girl, with that much testosterone around, someone is always going to get bruised, banged, burned, whatever. Poor Truett, I do feel bad for him but gez, kids just do those things sometimes and there is nothing we can do about it. I’d be more worried if he had never gotten hurt in his life, that just wouldn’t be normal!
Poor little guy! Kids are tough, aren’t they?
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Accidents are going to happen unless you wrap kids in bubble wrap. Its not bad parenting you have done everything to help him since the accident that’s awesome parenting.
You and I both share the house full of boyishness … I think I would be more concerned if we went too long without someone getting hurt! That would mean they were being bumps on a log and doing a whole lotta nothing ;-)
His poor little footsie looks like it’s going to hurt a little bit there, but I’m sure it will be feeling better in no time. I didn’t know that about not popping the blister. I’m guilty of popping them when I get the on my own feet -lol-
It’s definitely not your fault. Toddlers will do anything they set their minds to–I should know; I have two three-year-old cousins and they’ll do just about anything that pops into their head. The younger of the two was with me, my aunt, his aunt, and our grandpa in the moutains just a couple weeks before Christmas, and he ran head on for a drop-off of rocks. The drop really isn’t that big (just a few feet taller than me) but he fortunately got his foot caught in between two rocks. He was perfectly fine, with just a few scratches on his elbow. It was terrifying, but nothing was going to prevent it from happening.
That blister on your little guy’s foot just shows you exactly how determined a child is. Although, I don’t think he knew it was hot until he actually touched it, but still. The blister will probably take a few weeks to heal, but he’ll be all better and he won’t even remember it. So, don’t feel guilty; all toddlers are quicker than us adults, especially when we’re caught off guard.
–Kaitlyn