Comments on: Do Cheater Victims Deserve It?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 08:28:03 +0000

Whatever happened to asking a partner what they want in a relationship? I don’t think every man is thrown off by sweats, I think they’re more turned off when they don’t feel validated in a relationship.

Thanks for posting this.

By: ciara

ciara — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 17:02:26 +0000

having a clean house and dinner on the table for your man is way too old fashioned especially if BOTH work outside of the home. i don’t, and i’ll have dinner on the table most nights (won’t say every night…that would be a lie), do a majority of the house cleaning, BUT he’s gotta help, too. luckily for me my husband doesn’t care how i dress (always calls me ‘pretty’), isn’t yelling at me if i don’t have dinner on the table the instant he gets home, and he’ll do some of the housework if i ask him to.

and as far as the whole ‘sex’ thing is concerned? that is one area my ex and i NEVER lacked in, it was just everything else.

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By: Betty

Betty — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 04:30:34 +0000

â€œOh donâ€™t get me started on that matter. You are so totally right. I have to agree with you on every aspect of the matter. As far as cheaters go, not all cheaters are bastards as you well know some are female. Or should I say sluts. I too agree with the fact a women should have the house clean and supper ready when her man comes through the door. I understand sometimes itâ€™s hard to have the house work finished and be dressed to the nines when he comes home but ladies give an effort. I know you probably think I am just too old fashioned. But what did you think marriage was about. I have been married for almost 27 years now. No my life has not always been a bed of roses. We have had our ups and downs. But we are more in love today then the day we met. And we look forward to each day together. Because we know what makes each other happy.And we never forget to say I love you.

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By: Chrystal

Chrystal — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 02:43:44 +0000

Let me give you some info on this topic, I was married for 16 years so I’ve got a little experience. It does take both the husband and wife working at a marriage to make it work.

I think there are times when you don’t want to work as hard because you feel abandoned, taken for granted or maybe you just want to punish your spouse for something in particular. Now that I have this experience behind me, I can tell you what does and doesn’t work.

Communication is so important. I couldn’t always communicate with him like I wanted. Why? I think part of me was afraid to be totally honest with him about some things because I was afraid of what he would think of me. Little did I know, that can be a huge turn on to a man both intellectually and sexually.

Now that I’m in a great relationship of a year and a half, I strive to have everything in that relationship that I didn’t do right the first time around. That’s not to say that I did anything “wrong,” but I’m not going to sit here and say that I did everything totally right either.

It’s really odd in retrospect, in my year and a half relationship, my boyfriend and I get along great! Do we agree on everything? Heck no! Yes we do things that drive each other crazy too but you know what? We have yet to have one true argument! How have we managed to do that? Let me tell you!

When we talk, we have meaningful conversations. We share on all levels. I’m not worried about what I share anymore because I figure what I have to share is worth it and I shouldn’t be ashamed to share it.

If you don’t communicate and you don’t have an intimate relationship in a marriage, how can it survive? One lady said something about a medical condition earlier. Well good gosh, I would expect a husband to “keep it in his pants” for a six week stint while activities had to be curbed. I know married women who haven’t “put out” in years. How they are still married is beyond me.

In other words, share things people! And also have a healthy relationship. That’s what it’s all about!

By: Greek Girls

Greek Girls — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 19:15:14 +0000

I think that although cheating is horrible, it also depends on the particular situation. Different relationships accomondate for different things.

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By: A Cowboy's Wife

A Cowboy's Wife — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:37:33 +0000

Thanks ladies for you opinions and nice behavior about it…LOL. I’m glad we can all discuss how we feel about it!

By: Kathleen

Kathleen — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 01:24:19 +0000

I totally agree with you. I’ve been married for 8 years and we’ve been together for a total of 15. We just had our first child back in March, and so far things are going well. The key to our marriage is yielding to each other, not just the woman to the man but both ways. I do things he really likes (SEX!) and he does things I really like. We make time for each others’ needs and for simple things like hugs and complements.

I can’t imagine not keeping up with my appearance, even just for myself. I feel so much better when I’m dressed nicely, but casually. I haven’t owned a pair of sweat pants since middle school and I intend to keep it that way. I think they’re the worst thing for women to ever wear. At least jeans can be sexy!

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By: ciara

ciara — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 00:43:31 +0000

p.s. cheaters will always make the innocent party feel like it’s their fault. it assuages the guilt. i’ve always hated that bit about it. no one ever deserves to be cheated on. i don’t care what goes on in a marriage. no excuses. people just need to take responsibility for their actions. btw, i gave my ex all that he needed physically and was there emotionally…he just has a pattern. we got together when he & his first x sep after 5 mos of marriage (not smart of me i know. i was young and foolish, but i have two great girls!)then during our sep before officially divorcing, he got back w first x wife. soon as he and the first x split up again, he was w another woman, w/i 4 mos of their dating, she got pregnant. i know darn well he was seeing her before he and the 1st x split up. he also cheated on me. swore nothing happened except for phone calls (this was to a 17 yr old girl, too), i trusted and stayed w him, we bought a house, and there we were until he decided to leave 2 yrs later. i loved him w all that i had, but it wasn’t good enough. he needed everything to be bigger and better (read: more money). so each of us had more money than the other at some point and time. current gf pretty much ‘keeps’ him, and my ex has started treating our girls like 2nd class citizens. and if you think i sound mad? heck, yeah, i’m mad. LOL BUT, i can’t control what he does, only what i do.

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By: Bec

Bec — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 00:11:16 +0000

Hi
Just wanted to say that I agree, with somethings you say, and some I don’t. Good on you for having the guts to share YOUR opinion. My Mum and Dad were married for 20 years and when it eventually came out that he was cheating on mum, things fell into place and other stories came out of the wood work. It turned out he had been cheating on her the whole 20 years of their marraige. I just wanted to say he has had several partners since mum and has cheated on ALL of them. Surely ALL those woman aren’t doing it wrong? I would also like to say that the men that do this are totally unaware that they are not only cheating on their wife or partner but they are cheating on their kids too. I love my dad because he is my dad but I will NEVER trust him again and I have little respect for him now. It is VERY hard to love someone you don’t trust or respect!
I appreciate your opinion and it was good to read someone elses perspective on things!!

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By: TinaJewel

TinaJewel — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 23:30:57 +0000

Please delete the first comment I left as I accidentally put my private blog into the name link! please and thanks so much

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