Today I thought I would vent a little.
There is one thing I cannot stand and that is rudeness. I see it all the time in kids. Do parents think that manners and respect are not important to teach these days or what!!??
I went to the school the other day for open house and was so aggravated at the kids by the end of the evening that I had a long talk with my kids about manners and respect. These kids have dirty mouths and just run into you or in front of you without any care whatsoever. There are no yes maams, no sirs, or any kind of mannerism. The bad part of all of this is that the parents are to blame.
My kids say yes maam, please, no thankyou, thankyou very much, excuse me, etc. They know when they can act silly and when to behave. They understand that (most)adults deserve respect and appropriately treat them with respect.
I don’t know if it’s because both parents work, or if they are just lazy, or maybe parents themselves don’t have any manners or respect for anyone else…….
It is the parents responsibility to teach their kids how to act and speak to adults or anyone for that matter. Kids need to learn manners, respect, and morals. Maybe that’s why kids are the way they are today..’cause they have no-one to teach them these basic but essential life skills.
Lori is the Owner and Founder of four blogs, a 4 year Problogger, a social media influencer, and tech nerd at heart. She's been married 18+ years and has 3 handsome boys; Tyler 17, Toby, 14, and Truett 4. 
I believe you’re right, but I don’t think that every teen or kid is disrespectful. I know myself and my friends are very careful about being polite, because it is important. The problem is there are other major life skills kids are missing out on today; my mantra is focus, drive and determination and no one has that anymore. Personally, people need respect in general all the time for everyone and everything. Parents are not lazy, but they beleive that through allowing their kids to “learn” on their own, they’ll learn respect for themselves and others. What you said, and the reason I’m commenting is I believe your right on this, it is the parents. Kids are still kids, and they need to be directed and taught how to do everything, from eating right to behaving in public.
I really do appreciate your comment.
We’ve always lived out in the country and the schools have been small..everyone knows eachother and are able to keep the kids in tune better….when you’re in a bigger town or school, most adults aren’t allowed to “remind” kids these days..if they do, they risk the chance of getting in trouble with parents, etc.
I think that’s another issue on its own.
Once again, your comments are always welcomed.
I can’t agree with you more! I live in a big town (30 minutes from downtown St. Louis) and I have always instilled specific respectful behaviors in both of my boys. I just don’t see it in other kids they go to school with. One of the best compliments I ever received from a stanger was how well behaved my children are wherever they are, and whoever they are with. There are not enough parents with these same goals in mind. Kudos to you for blogging about a touchy subject!
I have ranted about the same topic for years. Kids today say things that would have earned me a right quick slap in the face. Of course, I knew what the result would be of misbehavior, so it never crossed my mind to do it. I don’t care what anybody says about corporal punishment. If the ground rules are laid down FROM THE BEGINNING, there is almost no need for it later. Fear of punishment is a powerful motivator and a means for teaching respect.
I just have to comment on all this as I have been getting a double dose of totally being disrespected in my place of employment.
One of the problems with kids today is that they were not brought up to fear punishment because today there is no punishment severe enough to teach them a lesson much less respect. They are brought up today with the old adage “money talks and b.s. walks” and they live by it.
I had a conversation with someone who is 22 the other day and we were discussing future plans for her newborn that will be here soon. I asked her about a college fund and her response was so contradictory that I was amazed. She said that she is paying for her college so her child should pay for its own. I responded with “no your not. Your Dad is paying for it. She said “well, he was but I am paying for it now. Besides he really should pay for it since I didn’t really want to go to college anyway. And beside he always pays for everything so why shouldn’t he pay for this? He brought me up that way so its his fault I think this way.” WOW was I ever astounded! Talk about your spoiled brat syndrome!
I do not believe it is the parents fault after people reach a certain age and I believe once they stick their foot out that door on their own they are just that…On Their Own. Be there for them if they are sick or need help but not support them when they are perfectly capable of doing so themselves. It seems that they want all the privileges of being an adult BUT NONE OF THE RESPONSIBILITY THAT GOES WITH IT!
They never learned respect, honor, gratitude, independence, frugality, compassion, responsibility, motivation, consequence, and mature thought processes. I have two kids who are great and possess all of the above qualities. I did not spare the rod so they know there ARE consequences when they screw up. They have children and are instilling these same qualities in their kids. I have been very blessed. I feel bad for those that have kids who are still kids at 22 or whatever age over 18 that behave as if the world owes them. Its not the parents fault unless they were so lax they didn’t even teach right from wrong. Kids today have a sense of entitlement that is totally way out of proportion.