I have this friend that I’ve been close to for about 10 yrs now. But some things have changed and I’m not sure what to think of it all. First of all, let me tell you that I don’t change. I am who I am regardless of who I’m around. I don’t act any different from around a boss man than I do around a hired hand and I can’t stand when other people try to be something they’re not or act like someone they shouldn’t.
This friend, I’ll call her goodytooshoos, has changed over the past year or two. It mostly started when she didn’t come to my now 15mth old’s baby shower. I totally understand when something comes up but when you give me 3 different reasons (that are flat out lies) why you aren’t coming, well, it kinda broke my heart. I mean, 2 women that I am social with but not BEST friends with came and not my own best friend (who only lived an 1 1/2 hour away). I was confused because out of the 3 excuses, only 1 “sounded” like a good reason and then later I found out that was a lie too.
THEN, the few times we got together after that, it just wasn’t the same. She was different. I felt like she acted like she was better than me. I would be talking to her and she would be looking around, pretty much ignoring me. She wanted to mingle with a different sort of crowd. BUT, what really made me mad, was when my son became involved. Her man kept inviting our oldest to spend some time at the ranch where they worked. He was soooo excited and proud that he was going to work and learn a thing or two on this famous ranch. We even rescheduled our vacation around the week he would be going. They were going to be coming up on that weekend for a wedding which made it perfect timing. We talked to them that week and right before they came up…everything was good. They arrived Friday. They came over for a few minutes but not a whole lot was said because I was VERY sick. Apparently, I get sick everytime we are going to be seeing them :roll: We all went to the wedding on Saturday evening. Tyler had packed his bag and had it ready to leave with them Sunday morning. SATURDAY NIGHT…..it was announced that Tyler wouldn’t be going because they were going somewhere that week. WTF!? You wait until the night before my son is supposed to leave to tell him/us that he’s not going? My oldest doesn’t tear up very often but that sure enough made him. Why didn’t they tell us that week? Why didn’t they say something that Friday when they came to our house? You just don’t build a kid’s hope like that and then crush them. Especially when we’re around other folks and on such short notice. HELL NO! Right there, I knew, things had changed. I’ve come to find out that they really didn’t want him there because they would be busy working???? HELLO….that’s why he was going, to help.
We haven’t spoken since then and I fear that we won’t for a long time. I don’t think they know how much they hurt Tyler or what they did was wrong. I’ve also learned that I’m not the only one who thinks she’s changed. I’ve been hearing way more unlikeable things about her than I want to. I know that other people see the changes in her and that it’s not just me.
You’re probably wondering if I’ve told her this. Nope. I didn’t want to cause any problems between her husband and mine. They get along so well. I hope that if she reads this, she understands that it’s been several different things that have made me feel this way. While the 3rd paragraph is what took me over the top, it was so many other things that were stacked up underneath….which is where I feel like I am when I’m around you. I don’t know if you read my blog but if you do, I’m here and I miss my old best friend.