“Hey sweetie, could you come change this light bulb for me?”……*silence*……”sweetie, sweetie, sweetie!”
“Hey sweetie, do you need a beer?”…….”yeah, I do.”
Can you spot the difference? The first quote is a prime example of selective hearing. What is selective hearing you ask? It’s a filter. For most men it is genetic and is located in the auditory canal, just before the ear drum. This enables man to hear what he wants to hear, not hear what part he doesn’t want to hear or deny hearing whatever a female said in the first place. He doesn’t need to put his fingers in his ears and go ‘la, la, la’, he just switches off part of his brain.
Conversation is an interesting area of study when considering the effects of the Y chromosome. Hour upon hour can be spent by men dissecting each play of a football game or obscure episodes of The Girls Next Door. However, any emotional content to a conversation is either of little interest or avoided completely.
For men, the incredible ability not to hear things and not to talk about things is matched by an amazing skill at picking out sounds they do like, like the opening of a beer can.
Tip: A conversational commentary that gives a lot of information can be too complicated.
I like most wines, especially the Spanish ones from Rioja or Navarra. However, I prefer the red wines and some rosÃƒÆ’©. I really dislike most Spanish white wine but enjoy most German white wines.
He may note that you like wine (especially if he does too). However, the “white wine' may stick, resulting in him bringing you an imported bottle of it. After all, you did say something about Spanish wines and mentioned white wines twice.
This is the way you should have said the above…
I really dislike white wine. I prefer the taste of red wine.
This is easy and short enough for a man to tune into to. Had you made it more complicated or longer, then selective hearing would have been activated.
In closing, when speaking, do this frontally, establish eye contact and have a relaxed expression. Ask them to repeat what you said, and for very important communications, have a calendar at hand to annotate and affirm understanding. Have the male initial the entry. This will shorten future disputes. Ignore the offended look. Smile.
Inspired by my Dad and the man of my house