I’m sure she didn’t mean to offend me, but when my friend saw this photo up on my Linked In page, her reaction was swift: “When did you have that picture taken? Ten years ago??”
Ack. Do I look that bad? Did I really age 10 years in just three?
Actually, thanks to the blessings of good genes, I know it’s not wrinkles or skin flaws that make me look older.
I had that picture taken when I first discovered I was pregnant with Boo. I knew I’d gain weight during pregnancy, and I wanted a good photo on hand for professional purposes.
But nearly four years later, and well you guessed it…the “baby” weight is still on. In fact, I’ve gotten heavier.
And I’m not the only one.
It’s blogging’s dirty little secret. Go to any blogging conference or blogger get together and you’ll see that I’m not the only one using a picture slightly more flattering than reality.
What do you expect from an avocation that encourages sitting around on one’s arse?
I’ve struggled with weight my whole life. I’m one of those gals that has a wardrobe than spans five sizes, for my “ups and downs.” Unfortunately, the ups are far more prevalent lately than the downs. And it’s impacting my life in many ways — as a self-employed marketing consultant and blogger, press opps are important. Yet I’ve turned down several offers to appear on TV. Why? Well, for someone who blogs about “healthy green living,” isn’t it a bit hypocritical to be so heavy? Everyone knows that’s anything but healthy or green.
And the TV interviews? Well, everyone knows TV adds ten pounds — the result would be horrifying, I’m afraid. Movie cameras add pounds too, so I was secretly relieved when Canadian film maker Mihn Sook Lee cut me out of her My Toxic Baby Film — although, heck it would have been fun to see the footage of Boo and my Green Mom friends. (We were all filmed at the Blogher DC conference a year ago).
So what to do? More importantly, what can I do that’s DIFFERENT? What can I do this year that will work?
I know I eat for emotional reasons, and neglect exercise due to the same competing life/work pressures every parent faces. Intellectually, I know the basics of good nutrition and the benefits of regular exercise.
Yet I’ve had nothing but a series of false starts and stops over the past couple of years I’ve tried to shake the baby weight. Worse yet, once I start dieting, I have a tendency to GAIN weight. All that focus on food makes me…eat!
So here’s what I’m doing this year: focusing on what’s worked before. When I’ve faced major changes in my life — parenthood, entrepreneurship, loss of a pregnancy, going green — I’ve turned to online listservs for support and camaraderie. We all know history repeats itself. So this same model should work for weight loss. I’m giving it a shot anyway. Care to join me?
Here’s how it will work. I’ve already recruited a small number of women to join in — I’ll set up a listserv and there we’ll share the trials and tribulations of losing weight, helping each other achieve our goals.
I’ll let you know how it goes.
Maybe I’ll even update that Linked In picture. After all, I intend to look even better!
Happy New Year!